Abraham Lincoln is generally credited with the saying, "A house divided against itself cannot stand". However, like so many quotes from opportunistic politicians down through the years, this quote actually has its origins in the Bible. The actual quote from the book of Matthew 12:25 is..."And Jesus knew their thoughts, and said unto them, Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand". Just like politicians today, Mr. Lincoln was playing on the emotions of the voting public. He was an opportunist reaching out to those religious voters that wanted to either stamp out the blight of slavery or those who had no desire to see this country torn apart. The context of what he was quoting from the Bible was absolutely perfect for his subject matter; and yet, where did that get him?!? He lost that particular election and then later on after winning a couple of presidential elections he ended up with a bullet in the back of his head. Still one can argue that he did great things during his time in The White House and was one of our most effective presidents. He was the great emancipator after all; and he was instrumental in preserving the union. Without his foresight and determination, many things in our country's history may have taken much much longer to finally come to pass.
What prompted me to write all of this "A house divided against itself" nonsense?!? Well, first of all, I like to think that it's not actually nonsense. Maybe I'm doing a Jedi mind trick on myself?!?
No there's a reason why.
A couple of days ago a good friend of mine came to me for some advice. It seems that her husband of eight years and her 21 year old son were beefing. She said that she was afraid that it was impossible for two grown men to live in the same house. Her husband and her son had different ideas as to her son's role in their household. The son felt that since that was his home, that he should be able to live there rent free and come and go as he pleased. His stepfather saw it differently and suggested that if he had his own place, he could do what he pleased there. A couple of days later, the son moved out and confronted his mother on his way out. He told her that at some point she'd have to choose between him and her husband. Regardless, he told her that he wouldn't darken her door again, until her husband was gone.
She told me that she said nothing to her son and basically just watched him leave. She asked me what I thought about this situation since we're of the same age and we've discussed familial relations a few times in the past. I offered her my heartfelt advice. Do you know of a situation like this?!? What would you have told her?!?