My single women friends are forever telling me about the "large" numbers of closet homosexuals or as they say, downlow brothers, walking around out there pretending to be something that they're not. Personally, I've never believed the stories about large percentages of "downlow" men of color, but for some reason these stories seem to persist.
There is a big part of me that believes that these stories persist because there are many women out there that spread these rumors because of "sour grapes". Oh I realize that there are a few out there, but I just don't believe that the numbers are significant. Sometimes the reality is that all relationships don't end the way we'd like, that goes for married people too.
One thing I don't understand is how a woman could be in an intimate relationship with a man and not know that he has homosexual tendencies. However today I did read a story online where a woman stated that she was crushed to find out that her longtime boyfriend was into dudes. She said that she really shouldn't have been surprised though because at times during their sexual encounters she used a strap-on on him by his request. WTF?!? Call me a caveman and old fashioned, if you will; but I don't understand why a straight man would want anyone to do that to them....do you?!?
I said to myself.......shouldn't that be a clue?!? Just in case she didn't know, straight men don't take it up the dookey chute. Shouldn't a request like that from a man stand out as a clue that he might be a booty bandit?!?